Why does my mom do this?

Ok I want to change my style of fashion just a little bit and I know my mom will have a huge fit over it.

She freaked out when I wanted my hair layered. She will certainly flip out about what I want to now.

I want to go a little emo not major but just a little, I'm not going to cut myself or anything I just like the style. My older sister is kinda emo but not a lot, she doesn't cut herself. I just wonder why my mom won't let me follow the trends or anything. I look at pictures of her when she was a teen. She followed all of the trends. Why won't she let me? I'm confused. We have got into arguments and everything about it but she never tells me why. I just want to shop in HotTopic but thats like a huge fight waiting to happen so I can't. I think she wants me to be preppy and popular but thats not me. I like emo/scremo music. It suits me but she freaks out when she hears it.

I just want to be myself and she won't let me. How do I change slightly so she won't get mad?

Why does my mom do this?

i would try to talk to your mom about it and tell her exactly how you feel. also add that even if she doesnt want you to then you probably will anyways and its your choice, not hers. the worst she can do is say no, right? also let her know that you understand that she cares and is looking out for you but you want to experience different things in your life.

Why does my mom do this?

It's hard for a mom to loosen up and give her daughter freedom as she gets into her teens. Try to be patient with your mom, and understand that she's used to having a lot more control over your wardrobe, etc. It's hard for a mom to learn to give her maturing daughter room to grow and change.

Why does my mom do this?

maybe mom "ain't raise'n no sheep"

Why does my mom do this?

Like you said, your mom followed all the trends when she was your age and she knows that following the trends, therefore beinga a "follower", is not the way to go.... She probably feels you have something bigger than that inside of you... everyone should try to be a trends setter and not a follower.... have you thought of that?

Also... you are not what you wear... you are your "personality" and should always try to apprimorate yourself to a better and better person.

The same way you want her to respect your wishes you have to respect whatever limitation she might impose, ate least while you are underage and under her responsibility. If you respect her it will show her an adult side of you, making her feel she can trust you more and give you more freedom of choice.

Talk to her and be very mature about it. Be sure of what your asking first

Why does my mom do this?

well parents have a hard time seeing there kids change into the "emo" look, because they feel as a parent there doing something wrong and with all the negative outlook on it they dont want people judging there child. Do you have a friend that dresses that way who has a great personality? Maybe you could invite them over to show that it doesnt change who you are. Or if you have a job you could save money and buy the things yourself one peice at a time and see how that goes. You just have to take a small step at a time and let your mom know that you as a person is not going anywhere, just your clothing style.

Why does my mom do this?

She sounds like she is very protective of you. She remembers the things that happened to her when she was your age, and wants you to not have those troubles. Talk to her calmly and lovingly. Get her to talk about when she was your age. The better your relationship with her, the better things will be for both of you.

Why does my mom do this?

why not have a conversation with your mother about expectations and what each one of you expect from the other maybe better understand why each one has their own ideas about trends, clothing ect. maybe she is just concerned about your safety and rightfully so because there is often more to trends than just fashion as you have mentioned many emos do more than just wear particular clothes and that is going to worry any parent that cares for their children , you must try to understand where each other is coming from and work it out from there. It is much easier if you try to see it from anothers perspective

Why does my mom do this?

Maybe as a teen your mum made a few mistakes of her own and wants to protect you from doing the same thing,,It is scary stuff being the mum of a teenager the world is soooo different and dangerous now you just want to wrap your kids up in cotton wool and keep them from the world... Cut your mum some slack she just wants the best for you..Have a heart to heart with her without getting into a screaming match and assure her you are not turning into an emo (not thats theres anything wrong with that no offence to the emos out there) but you want to live your life and experiment with different styles and such. Mummys little girl is growing up and that is hard for her..Good luck

Why does my mom do this?

I always wondered how someone can "be herself" by following trends and other people. You can only be yourself by being different from everyone else, not copying them....lol.

I am the mother of three girls in their early twenties. As a teen, I knew a lot of girls who were very vogue and current with everything from music to dress. Over the years, my friends found that these things were not really important in the long run, and that they should have spent more time making long-term friends and being involved in things that mattered, like ecology and volunteering. My mother, on the other hand, encouraged her four daughters to "be themselves" by cultivating our creativity and interests in community service and church. She freaked when one of my sisters dyed her hair! But she was right, and now I find myself happier than many of my high school friends, and have cultivated more warm and wonderful relationships than I had ever dreamed as a teen.

I have been challenged by my own girls' individuality and distinct desires, but they, too, have realized that some trends that seemed so important at the time (like nine holes in the ears) were just fads and have left scars that cannot be erased. I think your mom is just being cautious with you, and wants you to see that some things are just fads and not lasting, and that you should not do anything to your body that would leave permanent scarring. Later in life you will certainly regret it.

I, too, had a cutter, and believe me, it got really bad over time, to the point that she needed professional help. Please don't cut for any reason, it's not worth the pain and emotional trauma.

Changing slightly is natural, we all change. Scremo music is not a slight change, it is a leap into another world. You may want to come back to reality a bit and choose something less reactive to "be yourself".

And remember, you have plenty of time to be independent. While you are living at home, enjoy your family, as they won't always be there when you are an adult. My oldest daughter was itchy to leave home early, and now she calls me five times a week because she's lonely. We can't bring back the past, so don't let the past slip by. (and tell your Mom that you love her once in a while, okay? We moms need the encouragement.) Best wishes, sweetie.

Why does my mom do this?

First of all what is emo and what is scremo music?

I don't know how old you are, but has anyone told you that this

is a passing desire? Your mom and I (WALTER'S WIFE) went through our trends and lived!!! Now, if your mom is so upset she might as well give in.. If you don't do this you will do

something more drastic. I just hope you can let your hair grow to a normal length and color. Did you dream black nightmares or think thoughts of torture? I just wondering!!!!